In another post I raise the question of being a Weirdo, Obsessive, a Perfectionist or Gifted?
Now let us consider how to balance our gifts, the ones that lead to social stigmas and cause frustration in our lives.
The book The Gifted Adult makes a good case for the extra need of the gifted Adult to achieve balance. The author compares being gifted with an underground river. If you completely block the flow of water it will seep into cracks and eventually burst out somewhere. When we let the water flow at full speed it will cause damage to whatever it’s directed at. The goal is to control the flow of water and direct the optimal amount towards the right places.
The tendency towards perfectionism is a good example of a gift that must be controlled. With it we can always envision something better. When directed, this ability can lead us to great insights, creativity and guide us towards making the world a better place. Unchecked or repressed it can make us negative, bitter and ungrateful or cause us to become apathetic because, after all, nothing will ever be 100% perfect.
My religious beliefs also advocate preventing our strengths from becoming our downfall.
I consider all my strengths as gifts and all must be managed, moderated, and balanced.
Things I do to maintain balance:
- Weekly exercise routine: 2-3 times 90% at max heart rate for 30 minutes, plus 2-3 times strength training of major muscle groups.
- Diet: eat whole grains, avoid added sugar, limit saturated fat.
- Sleep: go to bed and wake up regularly, close to the same time most days
- Unpaid Service: around 10 hours per week of religious and community service
- Time with children: reading, praying, eating, discussing and playing
- Dating My Wife
- Weekly visit family & friends
- Outdoor activities: camping, hiking, walking, swimming.
- Sunday church attendance and break from regular work
- Strive for humility (give credit to god)
How do you maintain balance and manage your gifts?
Have any suggestions based on your experience?