After writing many posts about myself, a concern crept into my mind, am I being egotistical and selfish or am I becoming more self-aware?
“Know thyself” is generally considered wise.
Being egotistical is not.
Often one seems to be confused with the other.
Is this one of those fine lines where a virtue can turn into a vice?
John D. Mayer Ph.D says “People who display such an ability [to know thyself] understand themselves and know who they are. They evaluate others more accurately and therefore make more allowances for others’ foibles; they are better at acknowledging their own limitations, too”. Making allowances for others’ weaknesses and acknowledging ones own limitations doesn’t sound like being egotistical!
“Our Ego Is the Enemy of Self-Awareness” states Sara Canaday. In her article by the same name, she makes several good points. Confronting the reality of yourself, truly looking at our weaknesses and strengths always includes pain. To our ego the pain isn’t worth the price of genuine self-knowledge. She provides several good suggestions for improving self-awareness, take a look, if you dare!
Bringing back everything to yourself or relating to yourself can seem self-obsessed, especially if done in a rude way (which is not necessarily selfish, it could be a lack of social skills). I found an interesting post by Peter Kowalke on unschooler.com where he shares his experience with self-awareness and how it’s different from selfishness. He does make a point that we should guard against selfishness and there seems to be a risk of it in the unschooling method.
Using this knowledge, my plan is to keep writing and assessing myself. My hope is to improve self-awareness and avoid being egotistical.
What is your plan?
Know Thyself by John D. Mayer Ph.D
Our Ego Is the Enemy of Self-Awareness by Sara Canaday.
The Fine Line Between Self-Awareness and Selfishness By Peter Kowalke